International Men’s Day 2023: Challenging traditional norms of masculinity

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By Roshne Balasubramanian

19/11/2023

“What is masculinity? Who is a man?” A swift Google search yields a seemingly arbitrary definition: “Qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men or boys.”

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Naseer Mohammed laughs. Who establishes these “characteristics?”. “There have been numerous occasions when I’ve been questioned because I don’t partake,” he shares.

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Upon moving to Chennai in the 8th grade, Naseer found himself grappling with the added challenge of poverty. What compelled him to open up to his mother was his engagement.

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“I wanted to put a stop to it at all costs and resorted to self-harm. My mother stood by me calling off the engagement. However, that didn’t mean people understood,” he recalls.

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“It was my younger brother who introduced me to Nasreen. I had never met or spoken to her before, but I felt a certain affinity as he described her. It was like finding a safe space.”

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The couple has faced threats, trolls, sexual advances, lack of safety, deceit, financial instability, and an overwhelming sense of destitution.

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“Having previous experience working in cafes, I knew how to make mojitos. When we realised that fair treatment wasn’t coming, we decided to start our venture,” says Nasreen.

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“He always celebrates me with sweet gestures. On International Men’s Day, I want to celebrate my man,” says Nasreen.

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